This 2-day workshop is supportive of those wanting to reconnect with their societally repressed sexual selves through the avenue of movement (yoga), community healing and somatic based practices. 

ABOUT YOUR HOST

Alwande Malwane is a somatic sex and relationship coach. 

Her mission is to be a custodian of Creation, expanding love through somatic-based yoga teaching and instruction. She is passionate about writing, self-care, nature, community, music, astrology and spirituality. She advocates for vulnerability and authenticity - fostering transparent and open interactions. 

In 2019, she embarked on a journey of sexual reconnection through exploring her own shame, trauma, worthiness and personal growth. This was primarily through the avenue of: solo sex and masturbation, shadow work, attending therapy, cultivating a consistent yoga practise and training through the Somatica method (an embodiment based coaching institution that supports in cultivating relationships that are robust in intimacy). 

ABOUT THE WORKSHOP

Alwande is of the belief that healing takes place in a bio-directional motion that is is steeped in the richness of a safe community. 

This workshop has been curated to address the lifespan events of the inner child, shame, learning to process disappointment in the body as well as to provide you with resource tools that'll allow you to shift from shame to pleasure based connections with yourself and others. 

This workshop has been birthed with so much care and compassion to the universal human experience of how shame stifles our ability to be in vulnerable and unconditionally accepting relations with self and others. Alwande looks forward to supporting you in your sexual return.

RUNNING ORDER

• Day 1’s theme: Embodiment: listening to the body for cues and answers around your felt-experience of societal sexual repression. 9:30 - 10:15 (1h15) “Let’s get physical!” Yoga practise focusing on finding safety within and reconnecting with your sexual self 10:25 - 11:15 (50 minutes) “Meet the community!” Getting acquainted with self and community in a few rounds of QnAs focusing on the Mean Girls characters and one’s identification to them. 11:15 - 12:00 (45minutes) “Daddy, daddy, watch me twirl (for my inner child)!” Movement, breath and play exercises that foster deeper embodiment with the additive of an inner child visualisation. 12:00 - 12:20 (20 minutes) “When I look in your eyes, I feel…” Debriefing through the lens of attachment through partnered or paired eye-gazing and group “I feel” game. 12:20 - 13:00 (40 minutes) “Release ya anger! Release ya shame!” Addressing societal/sexual/oppressive shame through community attachment-centred engagement and presence. 13:00 - 14:00 (1 hour) “Where we bout to eat at?” Lunch by Thyme and Plates (Kholiswa Mqina) 14:00 - 14:15 Can we…move our bodies a little with some digestive-supportive postures? 14:20 - 15:10 “We can’t run from the disappointment of sexual repression - we have to be with and tend to it.” Somatically facing and sitting with the disappointment of our sexual repression; whilst regulating our nervous systems together, in community. 15:10 - 15:25 “… All in a day’s work.” Reflection time through journaling. 15:30 - 16:00 “Community check-out” How are our hearts and parts feeling? 16:00 - 16:15 Finding a home-base within through a visualisation as we close for the day. Packed late-lunch/early dinner to be taken with before leaving the workshop venue. Courtesy of Thyme and Plates (Kholiswa Mqina)
• Day 2’s theme: Re-connecting, remembering and reclaiming your sexual self! 9:00 - 9:45 (45 minutes) “Filling up our cups with movement” A restorative restorative yoga practise focusing on grounding the body and self, whilst gently easing into the new day. 9:50 - 11:05 (1h 15 minutes) "Getting in touch with who you are beyond gender constructs” Tackling gender constrictions, our on-going relationship to our fairtytales and subsequent pre-emptive hopes and rejections. 11:10 - 12:30 (1h 20 minutes) "Under the sea…of the shadow or what lays below the conscious knowing!" Do you know what you want to feel before, during and after moments of intimacy? And what resistances might you have to receiving those exact feelings? We’ll be unpacking a somatic term referred to as core desires: what are they and how our shadow-selves attempt to preserve and safe-guard us from receiving our desires 12:30 - 13:00 (30 minutes) Community check-in and debrief 13:00 - 14:00 (1 hour) Lunch by Thyme and Plates (Kholiswa Mqina) 14:00 - 14:30 (30 minutes) "Sweeties in STEM - what’s that vibrating/buzzing sound coming from under your pillow?" Destigmatizing the use of vibrators and other toys - through a bring and share experience of what purpose your toy has and your unique experience of using it it and how it might support strengthening your solo or partnered sex life. 14:30 - 15:20 (50 minutes) "I didn’t know so much arousal stems from my armpit!" (Tracking the body’s sites of pleasure through a full-body mapping; whilst learning and practising different types of touch on yourself). 15:20 - 16:15 (55 minutes) "Remembering who you have always been through erotic self-expression" Readying the body with a joint exercise that’s excellent for disassociation and moving sensory stuckness. This movement exercise is before our final experiential exercise that’s in support of creating more spaciousness and pleasure in the body through primal movements, sounds, touch and breathing. 16:15 - 17:00 Community check-out, debrief and tearing of our burn book.